How good is it !
How good is it when friendship is settled
and we can now give each other the freedom
that we need. Yet remaining in tune with each
other and allowing activities to develop naturally
day by day, if time allows! To think that all this was
at the end of our tunnel when we did not know
whether we would be compatible friends and reliable
companions. But time has proven us right on so many
levels, relishing in our outings and sharing of ideas.
We have left out very little that we needed to tell
each other before a true amicability could set in. Now
we can relax in the knowledge that we can continue
to enjoy our developed understanding of our needs
and wants for social, cultural and interpersonal choices.
We both love our languages and the history of the years
that we have lived up to date. We love family, friends
and people in general... although we don't suffer fools
that easily! (I do suffer them more easily than you!)
We enjoy good company, the banter of good times,
watching a good movie. So much more that we have
shared over these last summer months. It has been
a good time to pick up again after so many years
in which we lived separate lives. Now that the sun
is setting over the horizon, we cherish each day
in the other's personality. What more can we want?
And wonder how we can repeat this miracle
for as long as we can. Who knows? Our philosophy
is born out of the Spirit, our human indomitable
spirit that drives us to higher levels of energy.
It's good to be alive and in good company!
Lucky you and me for having found a mutual liking.
There the Sun agrees as it sends out its warm rays,
across the sea, to our space on the sand by the shore!
All round us is the quiet, pleasant, radiant atmosphere
on Safety Beach. They are all happy. Why not even us?
After all it is our Sunset Love and it's true!
Dancing with you
I have just come back to dancing after a number of years
of not doing so. How lucky I am now that you are my dancing
partner and a generous one at that! For you like to dance
with other good dancers and so do I. A perfect match, it seems!
Your energy, vitality and sense of fun is infectious. You are spoiling
me with this time on the dance floor. I am even losing some weight
along the way whilst having a lot of fun. The company you keep,
the places we visit are in tune with our experience dancing to 'our'
music! So what is 'our music'? It's strange to say it. It is the music
of our youthful years, the songs we remember, the tunes we like...
and we are lucky to have in our city the venues that are suitable
for so many Third Age people, who still think and behave young.
What is time after all? Are we not still young in terms of Eternity?
Let's not prejudice our golden years by focusing on age. Rather let's
look at ourselves and continue to be whom we have always been!
We are interested in living and taking each day as it comes, helping it
along with good humour and laughter. Yes, keeping things 'light and
breezy' suits us well. We wake up each day and welcome the sun.
The same sun that went to sleep last night after our Sunset Love
time on the sand, as we admired the horizon between sky and sea!
Such is happiness when love and mutual care is welcomed in our lair.
All we need to remember is that each day is special and we must
protect our togetherness! The bond that binds and lasts whilst
rejoicing in our freedom and carefree attitude. That's it for now!
Companion, love, friend
I am trying to work out the order of these three: companion,
love, friend for this Sunset Book 3. Companion for giving each
other quality time in pleasant and mutually satisfying activities.
Going to a movie, a few hours at the beach to watch the sunset,
a picnic or dinner for two, going out to a symphony orchestra
performance at the Myer Music Bowl, an outing on the Mornington
Peninsula, then picking blueberries off the road. So many other
activities already experienced and more to come. Who knows?
Love for looking after each other, thinking healthy thoughts
with care and optimism, having joy in the presence of each other
and generally wanting the best for the other. Friend is special
because a friend in need is a friend indeed! A friend you can trust
and hold dear, in spite of any distance or being near! These three
wise kings of our emotional well being are the ones we want
to travel together, as time goes by. For time is a precious
commodity not to be wasted in unnecessary banter
or conversations that lead nowhere. In these cases silence
is perhaps the mother's milk that every baby needs.
We know that such milk is not always available naturally
or by design.Then is this order right? For Sunset Love I think
it is. Circumstance and reality play their part in our togetherness.
We protect our freedom by doing this. That's the price we must
pay to retain liberty. Such is the way it has to be... and it is!
Missing you...
It's going to be hard not seeing you frequently
after such beautiful times together. Just you and me
on those free days when we both can share so much
joy and good banter. It's o.k. to have different views
and not to agree on everything. Also appreciated are
those caring health comments, your more ingrained
conscious awareness of keeping a good attitude
and practice! However it's true that having personal
freedom is, at this stage in life, essential. Again you
are more in tune with handling freedom in a very
admirable way. I have a lot to learn in this respect,
but, as a friend, I value freedom just as much.
Having met you has changed my usual daily lifestyle.
Now I want to go out more and enjoy the fresh air,
the sunshine, the wind and even those days when
the weather is less clement. Not to mention those
social outings to Italian clubs where we can dance
and be with other friends and acquaintances. Now
at my desk writing these lines in between my usual
commitments with books, culture, education
and entertainment, I am more aware that I too could
pursue other interests. However I value what I do
and feel happy in doing so! Somebody told me once,
'Tom, don't you know? Life is a balancing act!" So true:
in this case too! Without taking away the fact that right
now I am missing your company... can't help myself!
Am I imposing on you?
Sometimes I get the feeling that I am imposing
on you. I didn't have this feeling before... only
occasionally in the last couple of months. What
is going on? Is it me or am I reading your feelings
correctly? I know that friendship can sometimes be
a little heavy, that we individually want space to do
the things that we need or want to do. Yet not wanting
to distance the other at the same time. It's a hard
balance to achieve! Maybe we can be more clear
regarding the times when we can be together. Is this
too difficult? On the surface it seems so because the day
to day is at times unpredictable. It's the same with texts
or video calls. Are these too frequent? Do they bother you?
Are you happy for me to text you as I have done, almost
everyday? What is our future as friends if we don't stay
in touch? Maybe our true friend is liberty. That sense
of freedom that we have on our own, when we don't have
to think of the other, when we follow our daily routines,
look after our health and have fun. Also to have those
precious quiet times reading or just relaxing. And love?
Where is love in this? Where does 'love' go when we want
to be left alone? So does love go on holidays too? Will it
become a friend without expecting much in return? And time?
Will it be wasted? Will those opportunities be lost or will they
float about like a butterfly? It's all so confusing, really! Maybe
it's best just to be less introspective and let each day rule itself.
Don't write anything. Don't take those photos and footage
of what we do. Just enjoy each day when and if it happens!
And forget: is this what we want?.
Let's meet this time...
When everything is right between us, I feel it's going
to be a good day. For I need clarity and to look forward
to a day together when we share our activities. Right now
I am thinking of you and letting my thoughts wander
in different places where we could be. Planning the day
is not too hard when you need some quiet peace
in my company. That's been the trade mark of our love:
to have enjoyed each other's presence. Why is it that
I am still in doubt? Perhaps it's just me wanting more
of your time together. I wonder whether you feel the same...
perhaps you do but want me to keep guessing as to what
you're going to do... So let's be together this time: have our
own special day of fun. We can then decide to repeat
this experience during our new Autumn Season when
the grape vines are ripe! So many other trees will reach
their generous time for people to pick their fruit. Such
happiness in natural environments in the Mornington
Peninsula where life is lived in harmony by the sea.
Occasionally Melbourne's attractions are just as inviting.
This balance of living in a variety of places is truly the road
to good vibes, joy and happiness. Let's not spoil this adventure
by walking at a different pace. Some give and take becomes
necessary if we are going to make it together in true mateship.
Setting aside all doubts and going forward with 'light and breezy'
needs its own surety. We are there now. So let's make the most of it.
Time will determine the rest... whilst we enjoy this special day
and look forward to many more...
Oh well !
Oh well, it is what it is! Time to move on and rediscover
myself! This is another gift from Sunset Love: a gift I will
cherish with open arms. Moving on and doing other activities
on my own or in 'other' company! After all, we all need many
friends, companions and mates to move forward and be
ourselves! You are doing that beautifully as the sun rises
each day and bids us all 'Good Morning'! It's a new day!
One for us to do what we wish to do, as we please. I will join
this 'we' team in the days, weeks and months ahead. Will I end
up happy and with joy in my heart without being with you, so
frequently as in the past few months? Who knows? Time will tell.
In the meantime, the Brunswick Pool, Princes Park and neighbouring
clubs are waiting for me again. It's so long since I have enjoyed
my own beloved activities. It's now time to pick up where I left off!
Just doing those simple things and living in the now without expecting
those frequent texts and video calls. They will come occasionally
and I will be very happy. But a little distance, some detachment
will replace "il mio attaccamento"! A good thing for both of us, as you
have made me understand. I'll trial this new way and see whether
I will calm my loving spirits. Let the dolphin enjoy its own ways.
Let the butterfly roam about in her own space. We are all confined
to our own desires. So this is a new road that I must travel as each day
unfolds with dawn in the sky. May this road lead to good places
and people who will smile for a while as I rejoice in my freedom!
Honesty is the best policy
Working things out requires sincerity with a touch
of honesty and respect. For it is only in this way
that true friendship can flourish and grow strong.
It's important to clarify the order of activities and chosen
mutual picks to remain on the same page. These are
the bits on the list that have priority over the others.
Some things can wait, others not ! So talking together
to reach unity of purpose will give us our individual
and collective freedoms without compromising
the mateship developed over months of Sunset Love.
It is true that we feel love and liking for each other.
That we want the best outcome in all aspects of our life's
journey to the end. It's so true that we have met on this new
railroad train. We have found good empathy for each other
and have enjoyed our time in this wagon. It's now time for me
to rediscover what is in the other wagons, for you have already
travelled on these on your own more frequently than me
and for a much longer period of time. I know that I too can
do this with hope, confidence and will power. But I want to do
this not at the expense of our Sunset Love! This must remain
close at heart and this needs its own time and space. Let's hope
that the future holds us in its good care and as we have agreed
to before, let's keep things 'light and breezy!'. This I promise
I will do as I learn to roam in my own individual activities
and choices. I know that is what you want too!
Cuore in fuoco
Lo sai tu che mi manchi quando accendo il fuoco
nel mio cuore. Forse e' vero che mi tieni lontano
per far crescere quella voglia d'amore. Pero' non
mi dire di stare qua solo senza di te. So di averti
vicino e ti tocco nel vuoto come in un sogno. Passo
la giornata pensando ai nostri balli ed alle tante uscite
insieme. Non mi bastano perche' tu sei per me
la mia vera bella bella. Amami di piu' di quanto faccio io
per te... forse chiedo troppo. E' la prova del mio grande
amore che e' arrivato al tramonto quando il sole sta
scendendo e non sappiamo quando cadra' la sua tela
per noi due. Adesso amiamoci ogni momento e lascia
che i nostri cuori riscaldino questi giorni d'autunno.
Prepariamo le castagne ed un boccal di vino buono.
Brindiamo al nostro grande amore, allietiamo ogni giornata
insieme con gioia nei pensieri e felicita'. Sei tu che mi fai
rivivere la gioventu'. Sei tu che mi accompagni se lo vuoi.
Sei tu che fai entrare nel mio spirito il tuo sorriso e quei tuoi
occhi che scintillano quando mi guardi. Forse pensi a quel
che penso e non ti sbagli. Io penso a te!
Feeling Blessed
How good is it when things go smoothly. We did meet
to go to the Moomba Parade. The three of us arrived
on different transport: train, bus and tram. We met
at the piazza of the National Gallery of Victoria where
people gather in between two ponds of water features
and in front of the big cascading water on the big glass
panel at the entrance. It's a beautiful area this one.
Melbourne's pride and joy where residents, visitors
and tourists flock. Today we did too! And the Parade
in the inside of the Queen, King and Domain gardens
did not disappoint! It was absolutely a treat to see
this happy crowd and even happier groups of Parade
participants. Whether they were young or old, born in
Melbourne or from elsewhere. It was as if the whole world
was represented with its multi coloured human kind.
The costumes were just so colourful, the music relentless
from one genre to another, according to the groups
that made up the parade. Only a few floats this year,
but then the number of Dance Studios students and dance
enthusiasts provided the magical atmosphere that the crowd
was waiting for. The people flanked the road as security
personnel ensured that all went smoothly. We loved being
there amongst so much diversity and friendly comraderie.
One big happy mass of people who came together and had fun.
That's Moomba for you in this Grand Old City with a young
and green heart. Our Melbourne: a most liveable City!
Looking forward to seeing you...
Do you feel like me when we decide to see each other
again? It's like you have been away for so long, even if
I just saw you yesterday or a few days before. How are
we going to keep when time will come without seeing
each other for a while? Maybe it's better not to think
about it. Just love these opportunities when we can.
Sunset Love is good for us even if the sky is grey
and bleak. We know that the night is about to descend
and our time at the end of each day is special. Ask me
why? Because then I think of you. Do you do the same?
Approaching the night with delight and preferably with
a glass in hand in the warmth of our bed... to be with you
then is only a dream, before closing our eyes and waiting
for the new dawn! What a night! Sleeping in company
from far away. Thinking of you from where I am makes life
a lot more bearable. You are my new sunshine, my dawn!
So how are we going to manage another day? Will you be
there at the appointed spot? Will I feel anxious waiting
for you to come, give me a hug and kiss? What shall we do?
Maybe just being with you is enough! Maybe you feel as I do
or do we go on another of our activities? What does it matter
anyway! Seeing you will be more than enough for another
day! You are here! Let's go!
Love
Finding a person to love is like finding a needle
in a haystack. Generally we find love in our younger
days when we fall for each other and cannot live
without the other... or rather, we make a commitment
to 'love', to remain together, to be one. Then it so happens
that our 'love' wanes perhaps, but we move along with it
because we develop each other into unity, with family
and friends.We share our life, we make progress. Not
always. For some that 'love' gets lost and each person
finds that they made a mistake... so separation, divorce,
living again on one's own turf is the new reality. Others
do this later in life, except when death arrives and knocks
on our partner's door! Here is a new reality. One that arrives
naturally with warnings or no warnings at all. So we are left
on our own and still needing 'love' in our life... and, if we are
lucky, we find 'love' again! This time 'love' is no longer
a stranger. 'Love' becomes a friend, a companion and it follows
us daily in our journey. Going to activities and outings together
forges strong bonds of friendship. Here 'love' is more mature, real!
For even if we live apart, we are together in spirit. We want our
sunset years to be happy ones, full of adventure and fun.
Laughter in our company, sharing ideas, wanting to understand
the other, but fully knowing our individuality. For even if we love
each other, this does not mean being truly one all the time!
We live our own life and make allowances for each other's
commitments and likes. Loving you is no problem at all when we
understand that 'love' is mutual and it is shared like a box
of chocolates and a glass of brandy or cognac, watching
a favourite movie or just remaining silent on a Sunset
evening at the beach. Love, joy and happiness is us now!
What's happening?
My inspiration has slowed down for only a little while.
It's back stronger than before, but wanting more
of your company! Maybe you are not feeling well,
your energy is under more control, waiting for
a clearance before you begin again your frenetic
pace with family, friends and me! We are more
comfortable now in our knowledge of each other
and what we can and want to do. I was thinking...
how about a movie? Or just a walk in a beautiful
park? What about another dancing night? Or back
in a swimming pool and spa... and sauna? I don't
even mind a new restaurant night, but here we have
a challenge. A weight challenge: trying to outdo each
other losing some weight for health sake and strength!
Our day is fully mature, the sun is high near the horizon.
The sea beckons and that beach walk is near. Shall
we try our outings a little further out? To test whether
we continue to truly enjoy each other's company.
Precursor outings closer to our homes before
we venture out further afield or overseas. Let's hope
that Our Universe protects and gives us its generous
hand so that we realize our current dreams
of togetherness and love in friendship. Let's drink
to this, let's smile at each other. Give me a twinkling
of your bright eyes, give me cheeky pleasantries
and challenging my views. You know that I love
this because in this way we keep our individuality
and our natural personality. So what are you doing
now or in the next few days? Don't stay away from me.
Let's see what happens next. Maybe this new Sunset
will provide another lot of joyful inspiration for you
and me, and together we will be three!
As time goes by...
As time goes by, familiarity steps in and begins
to gnaw at our initial joy and happiness of getting
to know each other and having all those firsts...
a walk on the beach, a swim in the sea, sitting
on the sand and admiring sunset together, taking
these beautiful pics and reflecting on our first meeting.
How come we have hit it off so soon, without much
waiting and just doing. So naturally, as if we had known
each other for a very long time. Yes, we knew each
other but only fleetingly on the dance floor and a picnic.
But how good has it been to have found each other
and companionship. Friendship is also developing
as love and appreciation of who we are takes shape
and matures with each passing day. Yet we live our
lives individually and pursue our own interests and likes.
We are also committed to our families and enjoy those
periods apart when each continues our own tasks
and obligations. Yes there are also our hobbies
and personal sport choices. Not forgetting our quiet
times and as the months ahead will unfold it'll be so
much easier to say "ciao, I'll see you in a couple
of weeks!" As if we have so much time in our hands
that we can squander easily. We must remain alert
and willing to keep this togetherness intact. How we
are going to do this, I don't really know. Just thinking
of you is not enough... but as time goes by even this
can help our friendship to grow. For we have established
a strong bond of love and mutual respect. We also
understand that we must do what we individually have
to do. However we do know that when we get the chance
to spend a few hours together... this is special. A very
enjoyable time is assured unless our phones cut off,
we miss the appointed place for a meeting and all other
possible eventualities! But we know that even these
negatives cannot stop our desire to be with each other.
To enjoy our smiles, chats and banter as we sip on
a glass of something or enjoy our meals together
at a picnic or indoors! Love it!
Familiarity
They say that familiarity breeds contempt.
A saying that needs to be appreciated since we
all as individuals become familiar in our family,
with lovers and friends, including companions
and in our places of work and play. At first we meet
someone: everything about that someone is new.
The phase of discovery is interesting and we slowly
appreciate the other person's virtues and faults.
The same occurs with the other person who will
discover our strengths, talents, weaknesses and faults.
Love is possible and liking too, but then as time goes
by the predictable responses by the other can become
irritating and at times unpleasant. Disagreements
naturally arise and resistance can become the norm.
This is the phase when familiarity takes hold. The more
we see or talk to the other... the worse traits emerge.
A process of 'not liking' the other's personality, views,
talents and choices! We then try to keep a bit
of distance from the other, not fully wanting to cut
a developed relantionship. Real love and care have
work to do. These two need to lead each person
in appreciating the other's traits and overcome
emerging dislike or disapproval of what the other does.
Our individuality begins to hold our togetherness hostage.
We do and we don't want to see the other. We do
and we don't want to go out on activities that have
by now become predictable events... like having
a cup of tea or caffellatte. We know what the other wants,
thinks, reacts to and likes. Even those things that seem
hard to accept in the other. Familiarity by now has become
a problem! So what do we do? Do we continue to value
and revalue the relationship? Here real love, patience
and feelings of togetherness will give the fruits of a true
friendship, a true love for the other! Love is the answer
every time!
Feed back
How good is it when someone gives you
feedback on the way you conduct yourself.
Even just being able to appreciate how
an egg can be cooked in your own special
way or the opinions that you hold dearly.
Diversity is the spice of life, yet some humans
still think that their way is the only way.
Therefore feedback is not given. Resistance
and the 'silence' approaches are adopted
in favour of true honest communication.
Just to think that since the dawn of time,
people in our common humanity have
favoured war over peace. In fact they
have only had peace after lengthy battles
in unnecessary and counterproductive wars:
whether amongst nations, groups of people
or individuals. We like the competitive nature
of our being. We should instead do what
we preach when we speak about peace,
care for each other, loving one's neighbour!
These elements that are present in their
duality, with good and bad at the forefront
are the seeds in us. This duality in all
universal things is represented by life
and death, the beginning and the end,
or the end and the beginning! I appreciated
the fact that you gave me feedback
when I mentioned that it would be
a good thing for me to have. To know
how you truly feel and see the present
and the way forward. Our minefield
of emotions in pursuit of an honest
and reliable friendship needs to be
revisited often, after scouring our time
together to see whether there are
any seeds of discord. These we must
hold at bay in favour of those seeds
that allow progress as the relationship
friendship settles and changes over time.
I appreciate in you so many positives
when you challenge me over the way
I conduct myself, over my often unreasonable
expectations without necesserily expecting
a favourable result for my effort in trying
to make my point and have it my way.
You are instead more wise and experienced
in this dual approach to life and your freedom.
So if we truly want to have freedom in our friendship
we need to give each other 'Feedback'!
Waiting for you
It's been a week since I saw you last time
and then only for an evening at the movies.
There was another week without seeing you!
It's probably better not to see each other too
often! Waiting for you now gives me pleasant
thoughts about this interlude. I am literally
on edge counting the minutes or hours
(whichever one comes first) before you arrive!
For I know that your smile and shining bright eyes,
your hug will make my day! Is that all? Well, it's
plenty because we are going for a walk or just
choose to do whatever we want. By now all is good,
whatever the activity! What matters is to be together.
Happiness after all comes sometimes from
the simplicity of our expectations. No need
for much as long as we go out and have fun
together. See the sights, stop under trees
and statues, gaze at the flowing Merri Creek,
drive through our busy Melbourne roads
and enjoy our company, as we catch up
with our big list of daily chores and events.
Our friendship is strong, we can even withstand
an unexpected interruption! Like what has just
happened. I had forgotten that the Telstra
technician was due to come today in our
afternoon meeting. Lucky us that I have so many
books and much to see here in this warehouse
where I spent my days continuing with my various
activities. On the other hand you live near the beach
and have a totally different lifestyle. It's a wonder
that we meet as often as we do! Even with the best
of intentions, sometimes we cannot meet and catch up
for a Sunset evening by the beach or going to one
of our clubs dancing. Well maybe things will improve...
but now let me have this NBN connection. After this
our own connections will be stronger, faster
and more frequently!
Ode to Silvana
Oh Silvana, oh Silvana, do smile as often
as you do when you are with me. Your cheeky
repartees bounce off me like cherries on a tree.
Such joy and happiness you bring each time
we meet for an activity! These have become
numerous and varied over the time I first uttered
your name: Silvana! You were then a real lightning
bolt that struck my chords with pure resonance.
Over the months of Summer and now in Autumn,
your bright eyes still hold my attention and project
towards me a surreal attraction. Always hoping
to see you, to talk to you, to text or video call you,
to be with you.These are our times in togetherness
as good friends. We enjoy each other's company
and love to share our meals and drinks when it's
time after our activities. There is something to do,
or make or write to keep our attention and interests.
We know how to read the other's needs and ensure
that they are met. A sign of great care and love,
appreciating our different personalities. We bounce
off each other as if we know naturally what to do or say.
No discord is ever too long, for harmony is the name
of our game. After all happiness can be a very brief
experience or it can mature as we hold hands
and move to our next meeting time! Oh Silvana,
oh Silvana, come along and let's be merry for
tomorrow is tomorrow, but today is time for fun
and play! Let's have more todays as we dance
to our favourite tunes or just sit quietly in a movie
theatre watching our chosen film. Let's drink
and be joyous as we sit on the sand waiting
for Sunset by the seashore. Oh Silvana, you are
a dream girl. So sogni d'oro until tomorrow
or till we meet again! Oh Silvana...
A chant experience
You said: "Come along this afternoon. We are going
to do yoga together." No surprise to me since you are
well versed in alternate lifestyles and Indian experiences.
Food, dancing, costumes and dress, chanting and spiritual
moves give you a lot of insight into wise philosophies
for living in harmony with everyone and your environment.
Yes, you do live very well and enjoy each day appreciating
whatever it offers, including all your obligations! These latter
you meet head on and win everytime because the people
you love, care or just meet seem to love your personality and
way of doing things. You are also a great conversationalist
and can come into any topic with ease, confidence
and assurance of what you know. You don't mind saying:
'I don't know.' That's another good quality! But let's get back
to our afternoon where the yoga class planned turned into
a meeting of Indian meditation, song and chants accompanied
by a harmonium and various percussion items such as bells,
wooden sticks, a few drums and the clapping of hands.
The competent singers presented a few Indian words
on a board and then proceeded to create chants with
the repetition of those Hindi words in choral fashion.
The food, company and the view from the upstairs room
welcoming a sunset over the horizon, the sea and trees!
It was a few hours of reflection, with silence and good
feelings to show the way forward to a healthy philosophy
of life. A lot like religious belief, but for me totally different
from my own! It's good to see and reflect on the rich diversity
of our world in which the idea of God is universally present
in our spiritual and emotional make up! Even when we say
we don't believe, we actually can benefit by rituals of diverse
ways of acknowledging our human and limited life span.
This was an unexpected activity that allowed me to experience
'chants' accompanied by a musical instrument that was perfect
for a chanting session. Thank you for the invitation and your
company in this realm of spirituality.
Autumn days
It's getting colder as the days approach the final
month of Autumn. Winter will soon arrive and being
at home is more ideal to pursue indoor games playing
cards or chatting whilst preparing a hot meal minestrone!
Outside the wind and icy air from Antarctica arrives to keep
us inside... yet this very time can also be an opportunity
to visit the seashore and walk on the sand. Not many people
there at this time of the year. But the sea attraction is also
very strong. How about getting out to experience the wonder
of the sea? Watching the waves crash against those rocks,
or forcefully make their way onto the sand.Taking our shoes
off and walking on the edge of the salty water. Looking closely
to see the small fish and sea creatures. Picking up shells to take
home, occasionally cuddling up for human warmth, admiring
the clear sky and the variety of bird life living their daily routine
whilst looking for food or, like us, keeping each other company.
This is a first for us too! Experiencing the end of another season
as we move towards these winter months of rest and sleep. Nature
tells us that we must recharge our depleted energies, making plans
perhaps to go to warmer climates, like migratory birds and tourists
alike! Soon I will be with you again. Too long a wait, but soon waiting
no longer! Let's enjoy a few Autumn days to remember!
What we want
We want what we want when we want it! Often this
does not happen. So how do you go round this
problem of not getting what you want? Some people
throw tantrums, some others sit silently and brood,
but I prefer to just wait and see that it comes to me
when it is ready for me to have it! If another person
is involved in what I want, in what you want, in what
each one of us wants, then the problem becomes
complicated. When one uses the tantrum method
or the brooding one, the problem gets solved easily.
It's black or white. You get it or not! But when you use
'patience' to see how things develop, and what the other
person is going to do, the problem gets resolved because
the patient person looks for other solutions, looking outside
of the square, so to speak. For the patient one has had
time to realize that the initial hope to do what you want
when you want it is not going to happen. It's better to look
elsewhere! So do you throw the baby out with the bathwater?
Do you stop friendship or companionship or love just because
you don't get what you want? Again the answer is not all that
complicated for the 'patient' one. Just look outside of the square,
keep everything in place as it is, don't rock the boat and let
the other person have the freedom to pursue their own likes.
As a result, you can do the same and follow your heart
wherever it takes you! Each person follows their own journey
in life, and when there is no formal commitment, then freedom
of choice is possible and doable. Journey along your own path
and when this crosses with those of your friends, enjoy the company,
the love and friendship. But also be happy when this is not the case,
enjoy your own company, do your own activities, choose whatever
pleases you! Identifying what we really want is hard enough, then when
you are clear about this, denying our true wishes is counterproductive.
It's better to admit and accept the truth, no matter how harsh it may seem.
For things are what they are and often we cannot change what is!
Better to keep things 'light and breezy' if we want to be happy!
